After many days of prayers and many, many conversations, Brian and I have decided that I should go back to Kinshasa to be with our four daughters, who are stuck there. As you would imagine, just like leaving the girls there almost a month ago was gut wrenching, making this decision has been brutal as well. There are no "good" answers in this situation. It, frankly, is an impossible place. Since March, we have legally been the parents of twelve children. We have been separated from our Congolese daughters for six of those months and the two months we were with the girls, we were apart from our kids here. The first few months of that waiting time were sad, but we hadn't yet met our little girls. Looking at sweet faces in a picture and knowing they are in a place that is less than ideal is one thing, but when you look into those sad eyes and kiss those sweet cheeks, it changed everything forever for both of us--not to mention them!
Our June trip was difficult because it was our first realization of how deprived of food and love our girls really were. They tore food out of each others hands at mealtimes, snack times, and anytime in between- like nothing I had ever seen before. GiGi threw up at our first dinner because she didn't even know what it felt like to be full. It was horrific. The most awful thing I had seen in my life. We stayed in Kinshasa with the girls for a little over a week and leaving them was much, much harder than I imagined. But we arrived in Kinshasa knowing we would have to leave them. We also knew that we would be back very soon to bring them home forever.
That's what we thought when we returned to Kinshasa on August 10--that we would be there for a few short weeks and we would bring our girls home forever. But, as you know, that's not how it went. We spent two bittersweet months with our girls, falling even more in love with them and them with us, every day.
Then, we were forced to make the torturous decision to leave four of our precious daughters behind and return home to our other eight kids. I cried myself to sleep every night for weeks, knowing the day was coming closer and closer. I would lay awake at night and plead with Jesus to give us a way out, a way to bring our girls home. I will never in my life forget saying goodbye to our four little girls. We had a conversation with them, William (our agency rep) helped translate what was about to happen so we knew the older two understood. Sweet Jada sat on the bed with a sad face as I was sobbing in the corner. Like a big girl, she wiped my tears and said, "It's okay Mommy." Liberty marched off to play like nothing had even happened, we already know she likes to put on a "tough face". It was clear the younger two had no idea what was going on, off they went to play as well.
Two days later, we said goodbye. I packed the girls up with their special blankets we had brought them, their picture books of us, a few toys, and clothes. I was holding GiGi walking to the car, telling her over and over how sorry I was. I handed her to Brian so I could kiss the other girls. Jada gave me a big and long hug, I looked into her eyes and told her how much I loved her and that we would be back. I literally had to chase Liberty to get her to even give me a hug, again I told her how much I loved her and that we would be back. I picked up sweet Karis and I hugged her tight, as I placed her in the car, it was in that moment that she finally understood. She immediately started crying and reached for me. Brian had put GiGi in the car and as the nanny got in, the doors shut and they quickly drove off. In all of my life, I will never forget the cries I heard. Both Karis and GiGi were crying and calling "Mommy, Mommy" I cried and cried for hours. Everything in me was longing to stay but I knew I needed to come home, and be with our kids at home, rest, and most of all, pray.
Reality is, when the girls did not know we existed, it was much easier to be here and leave them there. They were in a decent place- it was an improvement from where they were before. Experiencing a week of being with their Mommy and Daddy hadn't impacted them too greatly. However, after two months with us, they know what it is like to have a Mommy and Daddy again. They know what it is like to be loved and treated like they are the most important person in the world, not just another child in a room of twenty. We left the girls with people that we believe DO care about them, and like I said in a recent post, it is a nice orphanage in comparison to many. But that does not ease the fact that they're still in an orphanage. Our girls already lost one set of parents, the younger two girls, more than likely, do not even remember them.
So, Lord willing, I will return and start over...for those of you who have not parented children who have been deeply wounded, it will be starting over. They will need me to prove, once again, that they can trust me, that I love them unconditionally. I am planning to bring materials with me so that I can start teaching the girls some educational basics. They have never been to school so we'll be starting from scratch.
So, here are the details...The first step is getting a new visa to enter the country, $300. Then a plane ticket, between $1500 -$2000. Right now, the best option is still for me to stay at the same place I stayed before. It is safe, secure and familiar to the girls. I have sent messages to some other adoptive moms and there are other, less expensive places to stay but they're less than optimal. Not to mention, there will be at least one other adoptive mom at the place we stayed before. The security of knowing that I would have another adult to talk to and someone to help if I needed it is very comforting. Our room will cost $100/day. In addition to that we'll incur food and transportation costs. I can take as much food as possible, but there are some things I will have to buy in country.
All cards face up, we are in the hole, financially, after our last two month stay. We borrowed considerable sums because we thought, again and again, that we'd all be coming home soon, and that we just needed to wait a little bit longer. I realize that even considering going back and spending more money when we are already in the red seems ignorant. But truth be told, it's not about the money--it never has been. Honestly, if we would have known what this adoption adventure would cost in time, money, and sacrifice, I can almost guarantee you that neither Brian or I would have signed up.
Truthfully, none of this makes any sense to us. I will confess to asking "Why?" more times than I can count. Likely, my feeble mind could not even begin to understand the answer to that question. That is why in Isaiah 55:8, God says, "My thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways." We cannot understand all that God is, nor all that He does. I take great comfort in knowing that God didn't overwhelm us with having to make a decision knowing what we know today. He gave us the courage and strength to say "Yes" to those four sweet little faces. He knew how this story would go and He knows the ending. He is good and He can be trusted.
"I am God, and there is none like me. I make known the end from the beginning, from ancient times, what is still to come. I say: My purpose will stand, and I will do all that I please" (Isaiah 46:9-10).
Please continue to pray for our entire family. We don't know the exact timing of when I would return and of course we are praying that the document that needs to be signed, will be signed before any of this has to take place! Then we will just go--get on a plane and go (VERY QUICKLY) pick up our girls as long as we have the money we need for that trip--2 round-trip and 4 one-way tickets.
We are so weary of asking for financial help. However, here we are, in a place that we cannot do what we believe God has asked us to do, without the help of friends and family and people who feel lead by God to partner with us to bring our four little girls home. If God leads you to give, even a few dollars, we would be so grateful. There is a donation button on the side of this blog. If you click it, it will take you to Journey Church's "give" page. If you choose, you can give a tax deductible gift there, but please be sure to type "Hopkins Adoption" in the comment box. If e-giving is not your thing, you can also mail a check made payable to "Journey Church" to 1794 Baxter Lane East, Bozeman, MT 59718. Please leave the "memo" line blank, but do attach a sticky note to your check that says "Hopkins Adoption".
We are so, so grateful for your prayers and for your continued support and sharing of our story.
Story of adoptive family and their journey to adopting from Ethiopia and Democratic Republic of Congo
Tuesday, November 5, 2013
Tuesday, October 29, 2013
PRESENT TROUBLES
We continue to wait...we really don't have any new news, just the same; waiting for a signature at the Presidents office. For me, this ranks even with my daughter Bailey being diagnosed with diabetes, as one of the most difficult experiences of my life. Looking back, as horrific as it was (and still is), watching my little girl endure needle poke after needle poke, I still felt like I was somewhat in control. I managed that "control" by making sure I was with her at all times. I think most moms would agree that is a normal and possibly even healthy response. I am sharing all that to say, that I think I handled Bailey's diagnosis better because I still felt I had some kind of control.
This however, is COMPLETELY out of our control. Nothing I can do or say can change the fact that our four little girls are halfway around the world from us, in an orphanage. No matter how nice that orphanage is in comparison to other orphanages in the world, it is no place for our daughters (or any child for that matter). I miss them so much, I find myself adding 7 hours to what time it is here over and over throughout the day wondering what they are doing. I wonder if they are happy, I wonder if they are getting enough to eat, I wonder if they are sad and wondering when and if we are coming back. The pain is almost unbearable at times knowing I might miss another lost tooth, another first word, or even a scraped knee. I can't handle that I am not there to kiss them good night, tell them how much I love them, and listen to them tell me how much they love me. I really can't handle that I am not there to pick GiGi up when she wakes up at 11:00 pm, worse I wonder if she even does wake up anymore or did unanswered cries cause her to stop??
Last night we attended our church's Fall Faire. I had a wonderful time seeing our kids dressed up and having a good time. Simultaneously, I could barely hold it together thinking about the girls and the reality that they should be home by now. I couldn't stop thinking about how much fun our little "wild women" would have. I even wondered what each of them would have chosen to dress up as. I will confess, I went to bed with a broken heart, tearfully telling each of them how sorry I was that they weren't here to go with us. No, I cannot talk to them right now but I have found that talking to them like they are here releases a lot of my emotions.
God is faithful, if you don't believe me, try opening your Bible and praying to Him daily. I am overwhelmed by His love for me today, I opened up my Bible and it fell open to a page where I had a piece of paper randomly stuck in my Bible. This is not unusual, my Bible is filled with bookmarks, sermon note pages, note cards. However, this was just a folded piece of paper. I don't even know what it was from. The paper says, "He calls us to a greater and deeper faith in Him. Mary did not let her questions stop her from taking the risk!" Then there are a list of verses, I looked to see if the spot that the paper was in was on the list and it was. 2 Cor 4:17 "For our present troubles are quite small and won't last very long. Yet they produce for us an immeasurable great glory that will last forever!"
Then I read the notes at the bottom, it says
Our troubles should not diminish our faith or disillusion us. We should realize that there is a purpose in our suffering. Problems and human limitations have several benefits.
(1)They remind us of Christ's suffering for us.
(2) They keep us from pride.
(3) They cause us to look beyond this brief life.
(4) They give us opportunities to prove our faith to others.
(5) They give God the opportunity to demonstrate His power.
So in our present troubles, I am asking God to continue blessing me with His words of encouragement and I am thanking Him that I get to be reminded of how much more He suffered for us. I am thanking Him that this situation really does prove how small and powerless we are. I am thanking Him that even though these last few weeks have been dragging on, in reality it is a small amount of time. I am thanking Him that He has given us the opportunity to share with others that we DO believe that He is our GREAT and POWERFUL God. We are thanking Him that although we don't know exactly what it looks like, we believe with all our hearts that in His perfect timing He will be demonstrating His incredible power to allow us to bring our girls home!
This however, is COMPLETELY out of our control. Nothing I can do or say can change the fact that our four little girls are halfway around the world from us, in an orphanage. No matter how nice that orphanage is in comparison to other orphanages in the world, it is no place for our daughters (or any child for that matter). I miss them so much, I find myself adding 7 hours to what time it is here over and over throughout the day wondering what they are doing. I wonder if they are happy, I wonder if they are getting enough to eat, I wonder if they are sad and wondering when and if we are coming back. The pain is almost unbearable at times knowing I might miss another lost tooth, another first word, or even a scraped knee. I can't handle that I am not there to kiss them good night, tell them how much I love them, and listen to them tell me how much they love me. I really can't handle that I am not there to pick GiGi up when she wakes up at 11:00 pm, worse I wonder if she even does wake up anymore or did unanswered cries cause her to stop??
Last night we attended our church's Fall Faire. I had a wonderful time seeing our kids dressed up and having a good time. Simultaneously, I could barely hold it together thinking about the girls and the reality that they should be home by now. I couldn't stop thinking about how much fun our little "wild women" would have. I even wondered what each of them would have chosen to dress up as. I will confess, I went to bed with a broken heart, tearfully telling each of them how sorry I was that they weren't here to go with us. No, I cannot talk to them right now but I have found that talking to them like they are here releases a lot of my emotions.
God is faithful, if you don't believe me, try opening your Bible and praying to Him daily. I am overwhelmed by His love for me today, I opened up my Bible and it fell open to a page where I had a piece of paper randomly stuck in my Bible. This is not unusual, my Bible is filled with bookmarks, sermon note pages, note cards. However, this was just a folded piece of paper. I don't even know what it was from. The paper says, "He calls us to a greater and deeper faith in Him. Mary did not let her questions stop her from taking the risk!" Then there are a list of verses, I looked to see if the spot that the paper was in was on the list and it was. 2 Cor 4:17 "For our present troubles are quite small and won't last very long. Yet they produce for us an immeasurable great glory that will last forever!"
Then I read the notes at the bottom, it says
Our troubles should not diminish our faith or disillusion us. We should realize that there is a purpose in our suffering. Problems and human limitations have several benefits.
(1)They remind us of Christ's suffering for us.
(2) They keep us from pride.
(3) They cause us to look beyond this brief life.
(4) They give us opportunities to prove our faith to others.
(5) They give God the opportunity to demonstrate His power.
So in our present troubles, I am asking God to continue blessing me with His words of encouragement and I am thanking Him that I get to be reminded of how much more He suffered for us. I am thanking Him that this situation really does prove how small and powerless we are. I am thanking Him that even though these last few weeks have been dragging on, in reality it is a small amount of time. I am thanking Him that He has given us the opportunity to share with others that we DO believe that He is our GREAT and POWERFUL God. We are thanking Him that although we don't know exactly what it looks like, we believe with all our hearts that in His perfect timing He will be demonstrating His incredible power to allow us to bring our girls home!
Saturday, October 26, 2013
PRAYER OF HEZEKIAH
Today I listened to a message by Pastor Bill Hybels from Willow Creek Community Church. It was perfect, just what I needed to hear! If you want to listen to it yourself, I'd encourage you to give it a listen:
http://media.willowcreek.org/weekend/prayer-together/#content
In short, Bill talked about Hezekiah's prayer in 2 Kings 19: 14-16. Hezekiah had just received a letter that all of his people including women and children would be killed. Hezekiah immediately went to the Lord's Temple and spread the letter out to the Lord. Here is what he prayed:
14 Hezekiah received the letter from the messengers and read it. Then he went up to the temple of the Lord and spread it out before the Lord. 15 And Hezekiah prayed to the Lord: “Lord, the God of Israel, enthroned between the cherubim, you alone are God over all the kingdoms of the earth. You have made heaven and earth. 16 Give ear, Lord, and hear; open your eyes, Lord, and see; listen to the words Sennacherib has sent to ridicule the living God.
17 “It is true, Lord, that the Assyrian kings have laid waste these nations and their lands. 18 They have thrown their gods into the fire and destroyed them, for they were not gods but only wood and stone, fashioned by human hands. 19 Now, Lord our God, deliver us from his hand, so that all the kingdoms of the earth may know that you alone, Lord, are God.”
Bill reminds us to begin our prayers to the Lord, like Hezekiah did, telling Him how amazing and awesome and powerful The Lord is. This will help us increase OUR faith and remind ourselves Who it is that we are praying to. Bill also spent time talking about the last verse: if we are always searching our own hearts and examining our motives for our requests, we can then pray with even greater faith, knowing God will answer us if our motives are to glorify His name and make Him known.
Oh, how this encouraged me today. I need to remind MYSELF how great MY God is so that I might pray with faith knowing and believing MY God is more powerful than any ruler of any land. No matter what the outlook is from our human perspective (and believe me, right now it's not good). He can cause any one in power to do what will bring glory to His name. I know our little girls (and so many other kids) coming home will bring great glory to our God! I am full of faith and encouragement this morning, praying for miracles, please continue to pray with us!!
Headed Home
I just noticed that this didn't actually get posted it was still a draft, it was intended to be posted on October 8
Thank you all for your prayers... Brian and I are leaving the Congo this week. As devastating as it is, we are not able to bring the girls back with us at this time. We are going to continue to work to bring them home from a distance, our agency, our attorney, and many other amazing people God placed in our path, while here in the DRC, will continue working to help us bring our girls home. Please keep them and us in your prayers. I will not be making any more posts for a while and I apologize if I don't answer messages. I'm going to focus my energies on being with our kids back home.
Thank you all for your prayers... Brian and I are leaving the Congo this week. As devastating as it is, we are not able to bring the girls back with us at this time. We are going to continue to work to bring them home from a distance, our agency, our attorney, and many other amazing people God placed in our path, while here in the DRC, will continue working to help us bring our girls home. Please keep them and us in your prayers. I will not be making any more posts for a while and I apologize if I don't answer messages. I'm going to focus my energies on being with our kids back home.
Sunday, September 22, 2013
Democratic Republic of Congo
Here it is...Sunny Days, Kinshasa DRC. You are correct, it is a
beautiful place! The people are WONDERFUL, the place is immaculate
(other than the messes our girls make) :). It would truly be a
fantastic place to spend time. Here's the deal...we have been here for
40 days and in case you are wondering, that is TOO long!!! Thank you to
our friend Eric DeHaan for allowing me to "steal" your photos :) Our
room is the one with the door open in the first photo and the last photo
is actually Eric and Cara's room (and the Wilson's and the
Larson's...yes we have been here long enough to have 3 families stay
next door and there have been several days it has been empty too) right
next to door ours but it is very similar to ours.
We came to pick up our girls having no idea what we were about to face. Our first week went well, Brian headed to the US Embassy to request an earlier Embassy appointment, as our agency had a miscommunication and missed taking our girls to their appointment on August 5.
Thankfully the Embassy was very helpful and we had the girls VISA's in our hands one week and a day after our arrival here. The next step of the process was the Bordeaux Letter (we have also discovered this could have been started before we arrived). The Bordeaux office began to express concern about us having 8 children at home and the fact that we are adopting 4 more. We were even told that the Bordeaux office could overrule the court who had finalized the adoption and that there was even a very real potential that we could lose the girls. This was obviously a definite "low point".
Our agency went to work preparing reports and documents that showed our financial ability to care for 12 children, letters from both our social worker and our agency's case worker, photos of our family together and information and statistics about the number of "large" Christian families in America to show them that we aren't alone in our "craziness" :)
The Bordeaux office wanted the Minister of Gender & Family to sign off on our case herself, but unfortunately at that time we learned that there is an actual law in the Congolese law book that states that you cannot adopt more than 3 children at a time without a "Presidential dispensation". Therefore, she also had to pass our case on.
There have been some other "hopeful" ways around this "Presidential dispensation" in the past six weeks (some of which I may share in more detail in the future) but we hit a dead end each time. So, here we sit, with an attorney and our agency working on our behalf to get our "Presidential dispensation".
I do not have a "good excuse" for not updating our blog as the process has unfolded, all I can say is this: the first couple weeks were both exhilarating and exhausting reconnecting and getting to know our girls; the next couple weeks were full of hopes that quickly turned into disappointments. I was feeling too defeated, hopeless, desperate, impatient, depressed, broken down, bitter, irritated, disgusted, discouraged, conflicted, confused, lost, and distrusting. The list could go on but I think you get my point. I did not have the emotional ability to even put into words what I was experiencing.
In addition to the negative emotions I was experiencing, I could go on and on about the positive ones I was experiencing with my girls. They are the more beautiful, hilarious, brilliant, and energetic than I could have ever imagined. So the only heartache I really have had, is that I have eight amazing children at home and in the last 6 weeks, we have missed Joshua's 18th birthday, Jazmyn's 8th birthday, Mahlea's 14th birthday. In addition, we have missed everyone's first day of school. Bailey started her first year at Chief Joseph Middle School and Mahlea and Kenzie started their first year at Bozeman High School. Dylon, Preston and Jazmyn started their first year at a brand new Elementary School (Meadowlark). For this mommy's heart, this journey has been unbearable at times. I've missed soccer try-outs (and I wasn't there to comfort two kids when they didn't make the team). I have missed flag football games and volleyball practices. I have even missed HOMEWORK which I will confess isn't my favorite "Mommy duty" :)
I have not even been capable of intelligently expressing my heart so for now, I will quote my very sweet friend:
"I ache for you, my friend, but am realizing once again how finite and small my thoughts are compared to the large capacity of love understanding and Grace our God has. I can still rest in the truth that God has been, IS and WILL continue to carry my friend thru this season. The truth is that with HIM you are home, you are with family and are so abundantly loved that really the details to the rest of this story are an inconvenience of timing.....mind you a very large and painful inconvenience, but nonetheless in the big picture this is a short season in the life of your family and in the life of the much larger story God is writing for you. Do not give up, do not lose hope God is still in control and can be trusted. Thank you God for giving us times and moments of opportunities to grow in our faith in the most difficult of ways - when we have no control. I pray for strength, endurance, perseverance and abundant joy for my friends Danna and Brian today. Work mightily in their hearts and draw them even closer to you. Amen"
I will do my best to update from here on out. I am SO excited to post pictures of our amazing girls but we have decided to wait until we are home. If you would like to be added to our "secret" FB page (where I post LOTS of photos and daily happenings around our motel), send me a message and I will gladly add you. "Thank you" doesn't even begin to cover how grateful we are for all our friends and family and your love, support, prayers and fasting on our behalf. We have experienced the beautiful picture of what Christ intended.
We came to pick up our girls having no idea what we were about to face. Our first week went well, Brian headed to the US Embassy to request an earlier Embassy appointment, as our agency had a miscommunication and missed taking our girls to their appointment on August 5.
Thankfully the Embassy was very helpful and we had the girls VISA's in our hands one week and a day after our arrival here. The next step of the process was the Bordeaux Letter (we have also discovered this could have been started before we arrived). The Bordeaux office began to express concern about us having 8 children at home and the fact that we are adopting 4 more. We were even told that the Bordeaux office could overrule the court who had finalized the adoption and that there was even a very real potential that we could lose the girls. This was obviously a definite "low point".
Our agency went to work preparing reports and documents that showed our financial ability to care for 12 children, letters from both our social worker and our agency's case worker, photos of our family together and information and statistics about the number of "large" Christian families in America to show them that we aren't alone in our "craziness" :)
The Bordeaux office wanted the Minister of Gender & Family to sign off on our case herself, but unfortunately at that time we learned that there is an actual law in the Congolese law book that states that you cannot adopt more than 3 children at a time without a "Presidential dispensation". Therefore, she also had to pass our case on.
There have been some other "hopeful" ways around this "Presidential dispensation" in the past six weeks (some of which I may share in more detail in the future) but we hit a dead end each time. So, here we sit, with an attorney and our agency working on our behalf to get our "Presidential dispensation".
I do not have a "good excuse" for not updating our blog as the process has unfolded, all I can say is this: the first couple weeks were both exhilarating and exhausting reconnecting and getting to know our girls; the next couple weeks were full of hopes that quickly turned into disappointments. I was feeling too defeated, hopeless, desperate, impatient, depressed, broken down, bitter, irritated, disgusted, discouraged, conflicted, confused, lost, and distrusting. The list could go on but I think you get my point. I did not have the emotional ability to even put into words what I was experiencing.
In addition to the negative emotions I was experiencing, I could go on and on about the positive ones I was experiencing with my girls. They are the more beautiful, hilarious, brilliant, and energetic than I could have ever imagined. So the only heartache I really have had, is that I have eight amazing children at home and in the last 6 weeks, we have missed Joshua's 18th birthday, Jazmyn's 8th birthday, Mahlea's 14th birthday. In addition, we have missed everyone's first day of school. Bailey started her first year at Chief Joseph Middle School and Mahlea and Kenzie started their first year at Bozeman High School. Dylon, Preston and Jazmyn started their first year at a brand new Elementary School (Meadowlark). For this mommy's heart, this journey has been unbearable at times. I've missed soccer try-outs (and I wasn't there to comfort two kids when they didn't make the team). I have missed flag football games and volleyball practices. I have even missed HOMEWORK which I will confess isn't my favorite "Mommy duty" :)
I have not even been capable of intelligently expressing my heart so for now, I will quote my very sweet friend:
"I ache for you, my friend, but am realizing once again how finite and small my thoughts are compared to the large capacity of love understanding and Grace our God has. I can still rest in the truth that God has been, IS and WILL continue to carry my friend thru this season. The truth is that with HIM you are home, you are with family and are so abundantly loved that really the details to the rest of this story are an inconvenience of timing.....mind you a very large and painful inconvenience, but nonetheless in the big picture this is a short season in the life of your family and in the life of the much larger story God is writing for you. Do not give up, do not lose hope God is still in control and can be trusted. Thank you God for giving us times and moments of opportunities to grow in our faith in the most difficult of ways - when we have no control. I pray for strength, endurance, perseverance and abundant joy for my friends Danna and Brian today. Work mightily in their hearts and draw them even closer to you. Amen"
I will do my best to update from here on out. I am SO excited to post pictures of our amazing girls but we have decided to wait until we are home. If you would like to be added to our "secret" FB page (where I post LOTS of photos and daily happenings around our motel), send me a message and I will gladly add you. "Thank you" doesn't even begin to cover how grateful we are for all our friends and family and your love, support, prayers and fasting on our behalf. We have experienced the beautiful picture of what Christ intended.
Thursday, August 8, 2013
MIRACLES!!
Monday was a very, very sad day. It was supposed to be happy and exiting! We were so thrilled to be featured on Give1 Save1 [that was the good news of the day]. On a sidenote, thank-you so mucn for sharing and giving! We are almost halfway there!! Ok, now back to the bad news...it was an email and it said...
"Dear Mr. and Mrs. Hopkins,
Please be advised that your visa interview appointments were missed today, and that we have rescheduled the interviews forAugust 21, 2013 at 9:00 am."
We had no idea what this meant or why the girls appointment was missed so I forwarded it to our case manager and waited for an email or a phone call. I sobbed all day! I didn't know for sure what had happened but I was certain it was a setback. Finally, that evening, I got a call from our case manager, she explained there had been some miscommunication between the incountry staff and that the girls did not get taken to their appointment.
As devastated as I was to hear the news, I was SO impressed with our agency! That may sound strange but our amazing case manager thoroughly explained the whole situation to me. She shared how devastated she was that they could make an error like that. I sobbed and listened and then she paused and waited. Finally she said "ok, let me have it" I actually giggled through my tears. This amazing lady was wanting me to yell at her for something she had absolutely no control over!!! There was no way I was going to yell at her and I told her as much. I told her if I were a perfect human being that had never made any mistakes or if I had never had anyone working for me that had made mistakes, I think I would have let her have it! :) However, neither are true so instead I told her how amazing she was and that I knew for certain none of the staff here and none of the in country staff would ever do anything like this on purpose. I sincerely believe they love our girls and I believe with all of me they want to see them home in our family almost as much as we do!!
So, we have spent the last few days trying to decide if we should postpone our trip or go ahead and go, knowing we could be in country much longer than we had planned. I also learned that changeable tickets are way more expensive than just the fee that you pay to change each ticket. If there is a price increase, you also pay the difference. Changing our tickets would pretty much be flushing a couple thousand dollars down the toilet. So, we prayed and asked for godly counsel and we decided to go ahead and go. Would you PLEASE PRAY that God will miraculously redeem this whole situation?!? And if He chooses not to, that He will coordinate all the other details for our kids here starting school and all of Brian's work trips. Please continue to pray for our finances, if we don't come home on the planned date, we will have to pay to change tickets AND several more nights in the hotel and food. I believe that God is going to do something very cool, and that is our prayer, that HE will be glorified!!!
Monday, August 5, 2013
Give 1 Save 1 Africa!!
We are so excited to share that Give 1 Save 1 is featuring us this week! Here is the link, if you have a couple minutes, please watch the video. If God leads you to give (even just $1) or share, please do! To give, click on our picture or where it says "Hopkins
adoption" below the video, it will take you to our Pure Charity site.
From there you click Back this Fundraiser in the upper left hand corner.
http://give1save1africa.blogspot.com/2013_08_01_archive.html
http://give1save1africa.blogspot.com/2013_08_01_archive.html
Saturday, August 3, 2013
PACKING!
We can hardly believe that we leave for the Democratic Republic of Congo just one week from today!!!! The days are ticking down to try and get our kids ready for school, which is not an easy task, especially considering that they don't have things like school supply lists for elementary school out yet! We will do our best and my sweet Mom and Brian's sweet parents will help pick up what we've missed (we're SO thankful for them!). I am working on gathering up everything we need to pack for us and the girls for what may be a 2 week trip, but could stretch longer.
Which leads me to the reason for my post today. We have a few very specific prayer requests that we would be SO grateful if you would join us in praying over.
The first is, Monday is our girls VISA appointment (this is actually while we sleep tomorrow night)! Our U.S. Embassy in Kinshasa usually issue VISA's on Tuesdays, but we understand that it would be a miracle for the girls to actually get their VISA's the very next day. Which means they wouldn't get them until the next Tuesday (the 13th). We arrive the day before (the 12th) which would mean that we wouldn't be able to start the "exit" process until Weds. the 14th. So, please pray for a miracle, that our girls will get their VISAS issued that very next day (the 6th)!
The next prayer request is that God would perform yet another miracle and allow us ALL to return home on Aug. 26th. I know I have asked for prayer for this before, but here it is again. Brian HAS to be home on the 26th and if our "exit letter" is not ready, I will need to stay in the DRC with the girls and bring them home myself (unless I can recruit one of my friends to fly over and help me bring them back) Jazzy's 8th birthday is the 27th and school starts the 28th, both things my heart aches to miss. So, we are asking God to allow us all to be home, together, on the 26th.
Our final request is for our last chunk of travel money. We are still around $15K short of having all the money we need for this trip. God has done AMAZING things on this front already, and we know that He's not going to leave us hanging now. For example, we are being featured on Give 1 Save 1 Africa Monday, so stay tuned for that. Some amazingly talented friends, lead by Scott Chestnut, created a very powerful video for us that we could not be more excited to share. If you aren't familiar with Give 1 Save 1, please check out their blog at: http://give1save1africa.blogspot.com/ The idea is, if we give $1, we can save 1 child. I think so often people think that what they have to give isn't enough to make a real difference, but the point these awesome ladies who run the blog are making is, if you have $1 and you pass along these family's stories and more people give $1, it adds up very quickly and everyone gets to be a part of caring for orphans! We are super excited they were willing to share our story right before we leave!!
Of course, "thank-you" from the depths of our hearts to all of you who have been part of supporting us financially and/or praying for our family up to this point! Thank you SO much and way to go for being a part of caring for orphans!
WE BELIEVE WE CAN ALL DO SOMETHING!
What we do will look different for every one of us…but each of us can and should do something.
For us, it is to bring home four more little girls. We realize this is small in relation to the world and all the thousands of orphans in it–but it will be big for us, for our family, and for their future. It will not be easy…and the world may look at us like we are crazy…again. :)
We do not believe everyone's calling is to adopt but that God does have a part for all of us to play in caring for orphans and widows. Your calling will most likely not be easy, either... ours, sometimes, seems overwhelming . But Mother Teresa said it best when she spoke about giving–that we must give until it hurts…
...all parents know how much it hurts to be apart from our kids. I have spent the last eight months (since we found out about our girls) thinking about the girls day and night. Wondering if they are healthy and what they might be doing. Wondering if someone has held them and loved them that day. This month, I have been praising Jesus that in just a few short days, when our girls cry out at night–they will have a mama and a papa rushing in to hold them…to sing to them…to remind them that they are safe. They are home.
When they are home, we will have a new form of "giving until it hurts". That in my opinion is the most beautiful part of the entire journey. Katie Davis wrote this on her blog this week and it is beautiful and so true!
"Watching them grow in their knowledge and love of the Lord is by far the best part of parenting. Without a doubt, parenting reveals to me more of my own depravity and more of my loving Father’s heart than anything else ever could. I am humbled and grateful."
We too are humbled and grateful that God would allow us to witness His work in healing and redeeming these little hearts. It is truly a miracle!
Thank you in advance for your prayers. Of course, we will keep you posted on how all of this unfolds and how God answers our prayers as we lift them to Him together.
We love you all.
Which leads me to the reason for my post today. We have a few very specific prayer requests that we would be SO grateful if you would join us in praying over.
The first is, Monday is our girls VISA appointment (this is actually while we sleep tomorrow night)! Our U.S. Embassy in Kinshasa usually issue VISA's on Tuesdays, but we understand that it would be a miracle for the girls to actually get their VISA's the very next day. Which means they wouldn't get them until the next Tuesday (the 13th). We arrive the day before (the 12th) which would mean that we wouldn't be able to start the "exit" process until Weds. the 14th. So, please pray for a miracle, that our girls will get their VISAS issued that very next day (the 6th)!
The next prayer request is that God would perform yet another miracle and allow us ALL to return home on Aug. 26th. I know I have asked for prayer for this before, but here it is again. Brian HAS to be home on the 26th and if our "exit letter" is not ready, I will need to stay in the DRC with the girls and bring them home myself (unless I can recruit one of my friends to fly over and help me bring them back) Jazzy's 8th birthday is the 27th and school starts the 28th, both things my heart aches to miss. So, we are asking God to allow us all to be home, together, on the 26th.
Our final request is for our last chunk of travel money. We are still around $15K short of having all the money we need for this trip. God has done AMAZING things on this front already, and we know that He's not going to leave us hanging now. For example, we are being featured on Give 1 Save 1 Africa Monday, so stay tuned for that. Some amazingly talented friends, lead by Scott Chestnut, created a very powerful video for us that we could not be more excited to share. If you aren't familiar with Give 1 Save 1, please check out their blog at: http://give1save1africa.blogspot.com/ The idea is, if we give $1, we can save 1 child. I think so often people think that what they have to give isn't enough to make a real difference, but the point these awesome ladies who run the blog are making is, if you have $1 and you pass along these family's stories and more people give $1, it adds up very quickly and everyone gets to be a part of caring for orphans! We are super excited they were willing to share our story right before we leave!!
Of course, "thank-you" from the depths of our hearts to all of you who have been part of supporting us financially and/or praying for our family up to this point! Thank you SO much and way to go for being a part of caring for orphans!
WE BELIEVE WE CAN ALL DO SOMETHING!
What we do will look different for every one of us…but each of us can and should do something.
For us, it is to bring home four more little girls. We realize this is small in relation to the world and all the thousands of orphans in it–but it will be big for us, for our family, and for their future. It will not be easy…and the world may look at us like we are crazy…again. :)
We do not believe everyone's calling is to adopt but that God does have a part for all of us to play in caring for orphans and widows. Your calling will most likely not be easy, either... ours, sometimes, seems overwhelming . But Mother Teresa said it best when she spoke about giving–that we must give until it hurts…
...all parents know how much it hurts to be apart from our kids. I have spent the last eight months (since we found out about our girls) thinking about the girls day and night. Wondering if they are healthy and what they might be doing. Wondering if someone has held them and loved them that day. This month, I have been praising Jesus that in just a few short days, when our girls cry out at night–they will have a mama and a papa rushing in to hold them…to sing to them…to remind them that they are safe. They are home.
When they are home, we will have a new form of "giving until it hurts". That in my opinion is the most beautiful part of the entire journey. Katie Davis wrote this on her blog this week and it is beautiful and so true!
"Watching them grow in their knowledge and love of the Lord is by far the best part of parenting. Without a doubt, parenting reveals to me more of my own depravity and more of my loving Father’s heart than anything else ever could. I am humbled and grateful."
We too are humbled and grateful that God would allow us to witness His work in healing and redeeming these little hearts. It is truly a miracle!
Thank you in advance for your prayers. Of course, we will keep you posted on how all of this unfolds and how God answers our prayers as we lift them to Him together.
We love you all.
Friday, July 19, 2013
PLANE TICKETS ARE BOOKED!!!
We are SO excited that our plane tickets are booked! Three weeks from tomorrow, Brian and I will be boarding a plane to BRING OUR GIRLS HOME!!!!!! Looking back, it's hard to believe it was just 7 months ago that we first saw their sweet faces. God has accomplished AMAZING things and we are blown away that our precious little girls will soon be home! I lay awake at night thinking of their sweet little faces and what they might be doing. I am so thrilled that in just a few short days, I will get to hold them in my arms and never have to leave them again. To tell them how much our family loves them and to watch the delight in their eyes (or hold them close if they are afraid) as they experience so many "firsts" in this new world.
I am writing today to ask for some specific prayers. As mentioned in a previous post, the girls VISA appt is Aug 5. Please pray that they are granted VISA's (it is extremely rare but kids have been denied before) and that they would be returned to our attorney quickly so they are ready for us to pick up once we arrive. Once we are there, we will start the Exit Letter process. We will report to the DGM (Director General of Migration) with our attorney and four little girls and request that he sign a letter allowing our girls to exit. This letter sometimes takes him days, sometimes weeks. We would ask for your prayers that it would be days. Ideally, that it would be ready before the 26th of Aug when we booked our tickets to return. If we don't have the letter that day, Brian will more than likely still have to return (because of some work trips he has scheduled) and I will stay there with the girls (5 tickets changed + more nights at the guest house = lots more money). We also would love your prayers for these last funds... We thought we had most of our travel money saved but when we had to travel to file our paper work, we depleted most of it. The tickets we just booked (Brian and I round trip, 4 girls one way) were over $10,000. If we can leave on the 26th, our Guest house total will be over $2,000, then we will still have to pay for food and taxi's for anywhere we go over those couple of weeks...I think I mentioned on a previous post, but the cost of food and travel there is crazy! We know God has brought us this far and that HE WILL PROVIDE for the remainder! We still have quite a few necklaces if you know anyone who might be interested please pass this along, they are shown on the fundraising tab!
We are SO grateful for your continued support and prayers!! I CANNOT wait until you all get to meet them. And YES, we are going to be having one, BIG airport party and you are all invited!
I am writing today to ask for some specific prayers. As mentioned in a previous post, the girls VISA appt is Aug 5. Please pray that they are granted VISA's (it is extremely rare but kids have been denied before) and that they would be returned to our attorney quickly so they are ready for us to pick up once we arrive. Once we are there, we will start the Exit Letter process. We will report to the DGM (Director General of Migration) with our attorney and four little girls and request that he sign a letter allowing our girls to exit. This letter sometimes takes him days, sometimes weeks. We would ask for your prayers that it would be days. Ideally, that it would be ready before the 26th of Aug when we booked our tickets to return. If we don't have the letter that day, Brian will more than likely still have to return (because of some work trips he has scheduled) and I will stay there with the girls (5 tickets changed + more nights at the guest house = lots more money). We also would love your prayers for these last funds... We thought we had most of our travel money saved but when we had to travel to file our paper work, we depleted most of it. The tickets we just booked (Brian and I round trip, 4 girls one way) were over $10,000. If we can leave on the 26th, our Guest house total will be over $2,000, then we will still have to pay for food and taxi's for anywhere we go over those couple of weeks...I think I mentioned on a previous post, but the cost of food and travel there is crazy! We know God has brought us this far and that HE WILL PROVIDE for the remainder! We still have quite a few necklaces if you know anyone who might be interested please pass this along, they are shown on the fundraising tab!
We are SO grateful for your continued support and prayers!! I CANNOT wait until you all get to meet them. And YES, we are going to be having one, BIG airport party and you are all invited!
Wednesday, July 3, 2013
VISA APPOINTMENT!!!
I have been waiting and waiting for today. So much so that I honestly have been waking up almost every hour in the middle of the night checking my email. No, I am not proud that I am so impatient but I am missing my four little girls so much it has been so hard to enjoy life without them. For those of you who haven't adopted, it's similar to when you are pregnant and everyone keeps telling you to enjoy your current children and the "easy life as you know it". However, you have prepared and are preparing your heart for your new child/children. Therefore, it is much easier said than done. I would add that it is even more difficult when we know our girls are in an orphanage in an unsafe, third world country. So...here is what the email said:
There were more details but I included what's important! So, that means a) I can start sleeping through the night again-at least until we pick up the girls ;) - things are a little different in the Congo than Ethiopia. Our agency's attorney actually takes our girls to that appointment and we will travel around a week after that to pick up our girls. When we get there, we will then apply for exit letters for the girls from the Congolese government. The DGM (Director General of Migration) issues these letters and it can take up to 2 weeks for them to get the letters prepared. There has been some talk of them not issuing these letters for kids from the region where our girls are from so please pray that is untrue and that things keep moving forward!
Thank you for your continued prayers! We have a lot to do to finish getting our house ready for 4 little girls!!
Your children’s visa interview is scheduled on August 5, 2013 at 9:00am.Dear Hopkins family,The Immigrant Visa Unit at the U.S. Embassy in Kinshasa has concluded our initial field investigation and is ready to schedule a visa interview for your adopted children....
There were more details but I included what's important! So, that means a) I can start sleeping through the night again-at least until we pick up the girls ;) - things are a little different in the Congo than Ethiopia. Our agency's attorney actually takes our girls to that appointment and we will travel around a week after that to pick up our girls. When we get there, we will then apply for exit letters for the girls from the Congolese government. The DGM (Director General of Migration) issues these letters and it can take up to 2 weeks for them to get the letters prepared. There has been some talk of them not issuing these letters for kids from the region where our girls are from so please pray that is untrue and that things keep moving forward!
Thank you for your continued prayers! We have a lot to do to finish getting our house ready for 4 little girls!!
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